What is normal?
Normal can be a word that has many different meanings depending on who you are talking to. For some, normal means going to work every day and coming home to the family at night. It means having friends that you go out with every weekend, but still staying in touch with your parents and siblings regularly. For others, it might mean living life without fear of what other people think. If this sounds like something that is important for you or someone close to you then read our blog post!
In the post, you will learn about what it means to be normal and how important it is for all people. You’ll also find out why being different shouldn’t make someone feel bad or discouraged from living life on their own terms. We hope that this blog post helps some of our readers to live a more fulfilling life regardless of how they are different.
a work every day and coming home to the family at night. It means having friends that you go out to work every day and coming home to the family at night. It means having friends that you go out with every weekend, but still staying in touch with your parents and siblings regularly. For others, it might mean living life without fear of what other people think. If this sounds like something that is important for you or someone close to you, we hope to have helped you understand what it means to be normal.
The next sentence might go here: And if this sounds like something that is important for you or someone- The Next Sentence – and Move Your Button
When you are on the outside of something, it is easy to think that everyone else’s interpretation and experience with what they identify as normal must be wrong. However, there can often be a lot more nuance in someone’s definition of “normal.” It might mean different things for those who have grown up in their own communities or for people who want to explore new cultures. It could even refer to having a variety of perspectives about life from other genders or ethnicities like yourself. Normal isn’t just one thing- The Next Sentence – but Moving Your Button
A voice inside your head telling you over and over again how much better everything would be if only you were able to believe that same message? Or maybe your mother telling you she just doesn’t understand or it just must be your father who’s to blame because he was never there for you. That voice inside your head that tells you everything would have been different if only things had gone differently in the past?
The one that tells you the life you have is just not good enough, and it’s somebody else who deserves to be living your perfect life?
You might think this voice sounds like a friend or even an ally. And while sometimes, in some ways perhaps it is- The Next Sentence – oftentimes, what we’ve found over time with clients is that this voice can make a person feel so alone inside of themselves because they’re never able to validate their own right to exist as they are without feeling guilty for being “normal”. Normal isn’t just one thing- The Next Sentence – but Moving Your Button…
The voices I describe here may seem extreme at first glance. After all, most people wouldn’t confuse them with “good” or “helpful”. But that’s because we’re not talking about a voice of validation. We’re talking about the voice who tells you that your truth is invalid, it doesn’t exist, and should be silenced- The Next Sentence – where this person might tell you to move your button from here (points)
The voice of invalidation is often more insidious than the voices of self-hate because it masquerades as a friend and ally. It’s not that this person has an agenda, just that they don’t want you to hurt yourself by disagreeing with them out loud- The Next Sentence – in general, their job is to keep you in line so you don’t speak your truth too loudly or make others uncomfortable. They might say things like “don’t be angry” instead of “you’re right to feel anger”. This doesn’t mean they have good intentions; these are people who really believe what they say…